Feeling bullied?: How to create change on both internal and external level.

I have recently started working with someone who has throughout her life faced a pattern of bullying. She would often find herself in situations wherein she felt bullied or put down by someone in her environment, which in her life currently was playing out in her work environment in relation to her employer. So how does QCK work with such issues which are partly internal, in terms of your emotional and mental experience, and partly external as the actual situation that is playing out? How do you in other words focus and work with who you are internally while simultaneously giving direction to your external reality so that you walk your process of change on all levels?

Essentially the purpose of working with your reactions in moments is to find a way of directing yourself as well as the situation in a way that won’t recreate it. You will find that the mind follows a certain reaction pattern which repeats itself. You’ll for instance go from feeling inferior/bullied/rejected to getting angry/resentful, which then also flows over into behavior patterns – from for instance making yourself small and suppressed to eventually lashing out from a place of anger or frustration where you will momentarily feel empowered but then eventually the cycle repeats itself again, from the internal experiences to the behavior to the actual situation play-outs. The aim of the process of self-change is to develop an insight into how these patterns play out so you can stop them from recycling over and over again.

Let’s look at an example of directing the internal reactions as well as the external situation. Say you are facing a moment where your boss says or does something you experience to be demeaning or even bullying. You’ll first have your internal reaction patterns that come up where you will feel inferior/rejected and then angry/resentful. From the internal reaction pattern you’ll then go into specific behavioral patterns of either suppressing yourself and ‘sucking it up’ or lashing out in some way, either passive aggressively or within spite or through aggression.

You’ll first want to address the internal reactions as these are the driving force behind the behavioral patterns which in turn contribute to the entire situation play-out and re-occurrence. Addressing the internal reactions is mostly through understanding and insight into the deeper layers from which the reactions are arising (which is where you also consider that however you’re feeling is not about the current situation play-out or person, but more about how you’ve already programmed yourself throughout your life — thus a ‘self’-responsibility).

When you’ve stabilized your internal reactions through understanding and for instance living a word like gentleness, then you can look at ‘how do I want to direct this situation?’. You could then for instance look at letting your boss know how you feel or communicating to him in some way that how he is handling the situation is unpleasant and ‘destructive’ rather than being constructive or supportive. So here you are simply looking at the best way to direct the situation while being calm within yourself. How you direct the situation won’t necessarily be ‘perfect’ as in producing the desired result, but it’s a learning process. The key is that you are calm within yourself when you address the situation, so that you can step by step find a solution that works best.

If you wouldn’t direct your internal reactions first, then your response to the situation will be driven by emotion rather than common sense, which will cause the situation to repeat itself again eventually as that is how the pattern works.

Interested to find out how QCK assists and supports with changing deep-rooted patterns such as bullying? Sign up for a QCK session or request a one-time free sample session.

 

The Power of Living Words – The QCK Files

‘Living Words’ is a solution which oftentimes tests out in my sessions with clients. How Living Words are a solution is from the perspective that when it comes to our mind and all the experiences we face in ourselves and our life, we are already ‘living words’. Have a look at how everything from your actions, to your reactions, experiences, self-image and how you perceive the world around you is all coming from and based on the ‘words’ which exist in your mind as your thoughts. Even when you can’t pinpoint any conscious streams of thought, you’ll find that you’re always in some way embodying certain words in terms of how you’re experiencing and expressing yourself.

For example in a moment when you typically feel anxious, you are embodying and living the word ‘anxious’, along with the thoughts, belief systems and internal conversations connected to the anxiety – all of which are also words which you live within yourself.

The ‘solution’ as living words is when you take ‘directive charge’ of the words you are going to live in moments. The moment when you go into anxiety would be a moment wherein you are allowing your mind to take directive charge over you, deciding who you are, how you experience yourself and which words you are living in that moment. We tend to allow our mind to do this because generally speaking we’ve never learned or realized that we have that ability to decide for ourselves who we are and will be in our life.

Although this concept of living words may sound simplistic and may sound similar to ‘positive affirmations’, which is where you say statements like ‘I am intelligent’, ‘I am beautiful’ or ‘I accept myself’ in hopes of integrating those statements through speaking them, it’s important to understand that the process of truly integrating and living a word to the point where it actually becomes a living embodiment of who you are requires a slightly more expanded application in order to be effective.

In my QCK sessions I support you with the steps that are necessary to truly integrate living words. These steps are:

1. Developing awareness and understanding of the mind. Before you can change an issue, there needs to be a certain level of understanding and awareness of how it exists. QCK identifies and maps out, through ‘reading’ your mind and body relationship, which dimensions of your mind are relevant for you to understand and become aware of to establish a foundation for self-change.
2. Finding the relevant corrective words. The understanding and awareness of your issue will lay the foundation and open the door for you to more easily see how and why living specific words is the solution to changing the issue. I assist you to find these words during the session.
3. Real-time application. When you have found your living words, the next step is to integrate them into real-time everyday moments. This is a very important part of the process of self-change, wherein I as the QCK practitioner stand as a point of support and cross-reference as you walk your journey of practicing and living the words that tested out in your life.

In a QCK session you are guided through every step of this process. This is the proven method to make self-change real.

 

 

Find more information on the process of living words at SOUL (School of Ultimate Living).

 

 

Interpret the Language of your Body with QCK.

Quantum Change Kinesiology works according to the principle that your body, as an extension and embodiment of ‘you’, shows you through physical conditions or pains how you are not in alignment with your utmost potential.

Your body is your physical cross-reference which shows you ‘where you are at’ within yourself and the location and nature of physical pains, experiences and conditions are specific indicators of the exact mechanisms and components of your mind that are out of alignment with your potential.

Whether you are experiencing pain in your back, feeling emotionally and physically drained or have a rash on your skin, your body is giving you a very specific message in a very specific language. QCK is the tool which assists you to interpret and understand that language.

In a QCK session, you are assisted and supported to ‘read’ the message your body is conveying to you through your physical issue, as well as map out and construct a road to change the misalignments which your body is revealing to you.

Do you have a physical pain, illness or condition and you want to find out what this issue shows you about ‘who you are’ on an internal level?

Are you ready to start your journey of learning the lessons that life is opening up to you through your physical body and realizing your potential to change?

Invest in your beingness potential by booking a QCK session.

 

 

 

 

 

The new and mysterious world of Quantum Change Kinesiology

About a month ago Andrea and I have started to share our newly developed skill and technique of Quantum Change Kinesiology to assist and support people around the world. Since then I have been sharing snippets and “sneek peeks” into sessions I have had with people, attempting to show what QCK is about, what the kind of topics and issues are I work with and what type of assistance and support I give people. I didn’t consider however that since QCK is so new and different from anything else out there, some more specific explanation is needed to show what it is that makes QCK “unique” and revolutionary. This post is my attempt to give you an insight into the new and “mysterious” world of Quantum Change Kinesiology.

QCK was developed by my “partner in crime” Andrea Starsi and myself over the last four years and only now have we started to open ourselves and QCK up to the world so to speak. We have been working with many people throughout those four years, testing, experimenting, fine-tuning and “perfecting” our technique, as well as undoubtedly proving to ourselves the unique potential QCK has.

In itself, the principle behind QCK is fairly simplistic actually yet at the same time it is extremely intricate and specific. QCK is simplistic because it works with the pure “reality” of who you are in your mind and body. I as a QCK practitioner use the biofeedback technique of muscle testing to “test out” the pure unfiltered information about what is existent on different levels of your mind, which is then also the intricate part.

 

You as a client would come to the session with an “issue”, let say for example that you experience anxiety, anger or another overwhelming emotion or feeling every time you’re in a particular situation. That experience which you go through is like the crown of a very large tree that has roots deep down into yourself and your mind. What QCK does is show you the rest of the tree, which is the “information” your mind uses to keep the “crown” of the tree in place. This information takes on many different shapes, like genetically transferred beliefs, thoughts, memories, coping mechanisms, personalities, archetypes and many more.

Sometimes QCK works in the opposite direction, from the roots to the crown, when the issue you come to the session with is a physical one. Let’s say for example your issue is a pain in your elbow that keeps reoccurring, or even something as serious as cancer. These types of physical pains and conditions are the physical consequences of your mind having rooted itself deep into the body. QCK traces the root-system as represented through the physical condition/pain to find the specific information in and of your mind that has been contributing to and creating the physical issue.

The aim of QCK is to first and foremost cultivate awareness of who you are in your mind and body, to have you become aware of how you create “who you are” within the experiences and issues you face through the information you live on the various levels of your mind.

We have found that this self-awareness is absolutely crucial to be able to change any issue – mental/emotional and even physical. It can even be so powerful that in one moment your experience and/or physical issue releases from your mind and body as you “realize” the reality of what has been going on within you all along. Obviously as with any habitual pattern, the issue will come up again although now at least you have the awareness and understanding you need to start changing it in real-time.

There is much more to share and go into in relation to QCK but for now this is my attempt to enlighten, educate and hopefully spark intrigue about this new and unique technique.

Please feel free to ask questions and I will be happy to answer them in comments and/or blog posts to come!